Careful when looking into a mirror...
I'm sure at some point in time everyone has heard that old warning, "Be careful when you look into a mirror - you may not like what you see." Well, this piece of advice is absolutely true. And going through any sort of self growth or self development (whether with the help of a program or alone) is going to force you to look into that mirror.
More than that - it's going to force you into recognizing that the person staring back at you is you. People have a tendency to block out the parts about them that they don't really like, or that they're afraid others won't really like. Blocking these aspects out, I found, is counter-productive. You can't really learn about yourself or evolve on any level until you accept that there are going to be things about you that people are just not going to like.
For example, I had to face the fact that I am, in general, a selfish person. I don't like to share my things. I used to make excuses all the time - like they will break my stuff if I lend it out. In truth, I was using these excuses to block out the negative, to justify or rationalize the parts about myself that I (or others) didn't like.
But the truth of the matter is, I just don't like to share. I want my stuff to be available to me when and if I want it without having to go through the added search of "who did I lend that to and did they return it?"
This isn't to say that I'm not generous - not by any means. It is possible to be selfish and generous at the same time. However, this isn't about my level of generosity... this is about breaking through the blocks that we've placed that keeps us from recognizing the parts about ourselves that we don't like. In my case, the blocks were excuses and lame rationalizations. But these blocks can be everything from "out of sight - out of mind" to outright denial. What blocks do you use?
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Be careful when you look into a mirror...
Scrying for some is a wonderful way into the void. For others it is shattering in that what is outside of our reality set can be very good or bad, we only bring into this drama our stuff right?. To be kind to oneself is the key. As a being of light anything is possible.
Looking in the Mirror
Maybe you found it difficult to share because you felt others wouldn’t look after or respect your things as much as you do! Not selfish, just an understanding that if something gets broke or lost then it is no longer available for anyone to enjoy.
I have problems committing to other people’s plans. For example if friends ask me if I would like to go with them to such’n’such a place at weekend, I can never give a straight answer, “maybe”, I’ll say or “I’ll let you know”. I think it is because nearer the time I know I’ll feel like doing something else or something else will have come along and I don’t want to say yes to something I’m not totally committed to. I think I also have a tendency to avoid ridged plans, and prefer spontaneous events. I think I block this out by telling myself “I’m doing my own thing!” and I deny the annoyance I must cause my friends when they like to include me in their plans - I think this tends to make me come across as arrogant and I think I deny this by being more arrogant – what a pickle!!
same as J!
he he that's funny, I was reading J's comment and I am exactly the same on this!! I think my friends hate me for this, but I can't commit myself to their plans, if sometimes I do it it's such a pain! I guess we are just very jealous of our own time and projects, we want to be FREE to do what we like until the last minute, nothing wrong with it ;-) hugs, fx